Your big day is just around the corner and you’re thinking about all the details organizing such a big event entails while trying to relieve the stress and find some time for yourself. Your family and friends are telling you to relax and remember that everyone will certainly appreciate the superhuman effort you’ve put into making everything perfect. However, it’s not as easy as it sounds and you know it. Sometimes you probably wish that there was someone who could do all the work for you and handle the pressure you’re supposed to deal with, but hey, it just wouldn’t be the same.
Event planning can be really stressful, especially if you want to do everything by yourself – one person can hardly keep things under control all the time. That being said, you should ask someone for help, be it a boyfriend, a sister, or a friend. Teamwork can speed up the organization, whereas a couple of cool heads can come to an effective solution quicker than one.
Assuming that you’ve somehow managed to find a couple of enthusiastic volunteers, assign at least one task to each one of them and give them basic instructions on what to do. Doing so will help you focus on the essence of the event, but at the same time it will allow you to supervise the activity of your assistants.
You surely do not want to see yourself engage in some rather inessential stuff just because you think that someone could potentially notice the absence of a certain detail. It is recommended to focus on matching things so everything looks well composed, which leaves a great overall impression. A couple of mistakes and omissions here and there are probably inevitable regardless of the amount of time and energy you put into the organization.
Keep in mind that every difficult situation we find ourselves in in our lives eventually passes, so there’s not a single reason to be upset no matter the problem. Always look on the good side of challenges – they make you stronger and prepare you for the upcoming obstacles.
Try not to look back and review the decisions you’ve already made regarding a certain part of the organization. This will be quite exhausting and time-consuming and it is very likely that you’ll quickly get stressed. You do, however, have to correct the mistakes you’ve made in case you have enough time (when the organization is going the right way).
You need to know what the important things are so you can focus on them rather than waste your time on inessential ones. It is useful to make a list which you will stick to or at least have a guide to help you when the situation becomes tense. Doing things in a certain order will probably motivate you to work even harder and put a smile on your face each time you draw a line over a ‘Must Do’ thing.
Sometimes it is of great importance for our well-being to leave all our problems aside and go on a trip in a place where nobody will be able to disturb us. It doesn’t have to be a long vacation, what’s important is to go far from television, social media and everyday problems. It doesn’t have to be a vacation at all, as an hour-long walk in a forest or a massage therapy will work just fine.
Making such a decision might help you gather enough positive energy to handle the constant pressure and start to look at things around you the other way.
‘Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it’. As one and only, Salvador Dali, wisely said, we’re in no way meant to be perfect. You should try to imagine how different your life would have been if you said ‘No’ to perfection, an unachievable desire to make everything you really are match the taste of everyone.
Don’t bother yourself with choosing the flower arrangement a popular magazine suggested or redesigning the invitations because of the hue you or your guests might not like. It’s our tendency to beautify every single thing which makes us suffer from time to time.
Once your day has finally come, give your best to show yourself in all your glory. This will be your chance to enjoy in all the effort you put into organizing everything and you will realize that all the hours spent mumbling about the fact that you didn’t have to go through such an intense period were really worth it after all.
Don’t forget that this is not the right time to be humble and claim that you didn’t play an important role in the organization. Proudly take your trophy and reward yourself with a couple of positive guests’ opinions. Look around you, take a deep breath and say to yourself: ‘I did it’. You will feel great relief with every toast proposed and with every smile seen on the faces of your dear guests.
Sometimes it’s small things that matter. Happiness doesn’t come from taking, it comes from giving. Show your appreciation to all the people who participated in your event and make them feel proud of their work. The feeling of satisfaction that comes from the hard work will reach its peak on the big day and it will be spread equally among the participants, with you being the one who made everything possible.